I met a girl in Georgia once (her name was Linsey) and we became instant friends. I was just traveling through, so we didn’t get to spend much time together, but I’m convinced we were Kindred Spirits.
“What are you living for today?” she asked me one morning.
I had woken up feeling discouraged.
I knew she wanted to help, but her question made me feel sort of heavy. “You know, Lindsey,” I felt like saying, “I’m not really interested in having a deep, philosophical conversation right now. I’m a little out of sorts.”
But before I could open my mouth she said, “While you’re thinking about it, I’m living for Starbucks’ White Mocha.”
Lindsey explained that, sometimes, when life gets boring or heavy or discouraging, sometimes what you need isn’t a deep, philosophical understanding of the “meaning of life as we know it,” but just something, one thing, to bring you into to the moment, make you feel a sense of satisfaction and joy.
I like that. I’ve thought about it several times since then.
In fact, every time I find myself feeling a little down in the dumps I try to remind myself not to worry too much about how everything is going to work itself out, but to look for something small — something to taste, touch, feel, observe, or experience.
A good book.
A piece of dark chocolate.
A glass of wine.
A kiss from my husband.
My mom calls these TJ’s — Tiny Joys
—and she often asks me, “What were your TJ’s today?” She reminds me, just like Lindsey did, that the little things in life add up fast, and that if we’re willing to focus on all the little things that bring us gratitude, the big obstacles that seem insurmountable start to fade into the background.
So let me ask you: What are you living for today?